We are the wild ones remembering that our bodies are not problems to solve.
Remembering that our worth is inherent.
Remembering that our liberation is bound together.
Remembering that another future is possible—and choosing to embody it now.
We have spent enough of our lives trying to become worthy.
Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Prettier. Healthier. More desirable. More productive. More acceptable. More "enough."
We're done measuring our lives by standards that require us to betray ourselves.
We are THE ONES who refuse to abandon ourselves in order to belong. We refuse to believe that shame is the price of belonging.
We are artists, healers, leaders, teachers, visionaries, caregivers, activists, entrepreneurs, ministers, creators, and change-makers. We come from different walks of life, but we are united by one remembering: our bodies were never the problem.
We live in bodies that have been judged, marginalized, chronically ill, disabled, aging, fat, queer, trans, or misunderstood. Many of us have survived shame, trauma, oppression, or years spent shape-shifting to fit a world that asked us to become less of ourselves.
No more.
We are reclaiming the parts of ourselves that shame taught us to exile—our bodies, our voices, our desire, our creativity, our joy, our grief, our sacred power, and our life force.
We are no longer interested in fitting into a culture that profits from our self-rejection, extraction, harm & abandonment. We’re here to create a new one.
A culture where every body belongs. Where our differences are honored, not erased. Where truth matters more than performance. Where liberation is embodied, not just imagined.
Together, we are remembering what it means to come home to ourselves—and helping create a world where no one has to abandon themselves in order to belong.
We Are STARkin
We Believe...
Every body belongs.
Shame is learned—not inherent.
Creativity is a force for cultural transformation.
Another way of being human is possible.
Leadership begins with embodiment.
Our bodies are sources of wisdom, not problems to solve.
Reciprocity is how communities flourish.
Liberation is collective.
We practice
• Courageous truth-telling
• Embodied leadership
• Sacred ceremony
• Ecstatic movement
• Creative expression
• Collective care
• Sacred reciprocity
• Nervous system healing
• Restorative rest
• Generosity
• Advocacy
• Joy
WE REFUSEWe refuse…
shame. self-abandonment. body distrust. domination. extraction. forced conformity. internalized surveillance. the suppression of desire. shrinking to belong.
Because these are the Insidious mechanisms OF The patriarchy that disconnect us from ourselves, one another, and life.
Meet the Midwife
Lainie Love Dalby didn't create the Sparkle SHAMELESSLY movement. She answered its call (from a sky full of 1000’s of fireflys, literally.)
For over two decades, she’s followed one thread: helping people reclaim the parts of themselves they were taught to hide, silence, shrink, or shame.
As a queer fat femme living with Lipedema—a hereditary inflammatory fat disorder—and multiple chronic illnesses, Lainie Love’s work is deeply informed by the lived experience of reclaiming life-force, dignity, and joy in a body our culture too often teaches us to wage war against.
Their path has been anything but conventional. They’ve been an architect, fashion designer, internationally exhibited artist, former dominatrix and sex worker, Interfaith Minister, leadership mentor, transformational retreat leader, best selling author, oracle creator, astrologer, global speaker, and a baddass DJ VÖLKANA.
For years, those lives seemed disconnected. Now she knows they were all preparing her for this.
Lainie Love’s deepest stand has always been the same: to help end the overt and covert violenceagainst women, girls, LGBTQIA+ people, and all those who have been marginalized, silenced, or made to believe they are less than.
Today, that commitment lives through in her devotion to ending the Patriarchal S.H.A.M.E. Spell—the cultural forces that teach us our bodies are problems to solve, our worth must be earned, and belonging requires self-abandonment.
She believes this is one of the greatest spiritual, social, and public health crises of our time.
Because when we become disconnected from our bodies, we become disconnected from our truth, our power, one another, and the living Earth.
Lainie Love’s life's work is devoted to changing that.
Through education, multimedia ministry, sacred ceremony, embodied leadership, creative expression, advocacy, and movement building, she’s helping cultivate the cultural conditions where we can reclaim our life force, remember who we are, and help create a more regenerative future where every body belongs.
This isn't her brand. It's their Sacred OPUS. It's the work she’s devoted her life to.
If you're here, we have a feeling you're being called to help build this future with us.
Welcome home.
Halley’s Comet in heels
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a shaman in a rainbow unicorn suit
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a true visionary, inspirational leader, and holy healer
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a star being and powerful warrior that stands fiercely for all people
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a potent source of love, wisdom & support
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a priceless irreplaceable wonder of the world who puts the SPARKLE in spirituality
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Halley’s Comet in heels * a shaman in a rainbow unicorn suit * a true visionary, inspirational leader, and holy healer * a star being and powerful warrior that stands fiercely for all people * a potent source of love, wisdom & support * a priceless irreplaceable wonder of the world who puts the SPARKLE in spirituality *
want to go deeper?!
LIBERATED AS F*CK is Lainie Love’s most personal and (r)evolutionary work yet—a womanifesto for breaking the shame spell, reclaiming our life force, and remembering who we were before the world taught us to make ourselves smaller. I'm inviting you into the creative cauldron to witness the book as it's born, with behind-the-scenes reflections, selected draft chapters, and conversations that shape the journey along the way. Click below to join us for the journey!